Too Many People Are Hurting Due To A Lack Of Acceptance From Much Of Society.

   Hey there folks. I’d like to talk about something that’s very important which many people don’t realize. The fact is that there are a great number of LGBTQ people who are hurting, isolated, and alone because too many members of the Straight and Gay / Lesbian Communities don’t fully accept us. And this needs to change. It’s the 21st century for crying out loud.
   Who am I talking about you may wonder. It’s actually a lot more people than you may think. Bisexual+, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Nonbinary, Transgender, Asexual, and others (NTBA+ for short) often feel like we’re not fully accepted by most of society so that far too often, we end up very isolated and alone.
   Many people fear, and even ostracize, individuals whom they see as too different. Often, they assume the worst. That somehow we must be confused and untrustworthy. Or that we’re just plain too weird. The result is that they don’t fully accept us.
   The consequences are that too many NTBA+ people end up feeling like we don’t belong anywhere and that people don’t want us. It makes finding true friends incredibly difficult and often dating becomes virtually impossible, despite the fact that we can be just as faithful and monogamous as anyone else and that we want love too. Unfortunately, too many of us are having to face the brutal reality that we are probably going to be alone for the rest of our lives.
   Things need to change.
   The Straight and Gay / Lesbian Communities as a whole need to open their minds and their hearts. NTBA+ people deserve acceptance and a chance. Don’t automatically reject us because of who we are. Try to open your minds and get to know us. We also enjoy the same interests and activities that you do, whether it’s movies, TV shows, and art or good food, travel, and the outdoors. Plus, diversity should be celebrated, not feared.
   We are people too.
   We have hopes and dreams.
   We want to have happy productive lives like everyone else.
   All we are asking for is a chance.
   If everyone strove to be kind, considerate, tolerant, open-minded, and accepting, imagine how wonderful and magical the world could be for everyone.

Loneliness Is More Common Than Many Realize Or Want To Admit

   It can be really sobering when you look around and realize how few, if any, genuine friends you have. Some people have numerous good friends, but others of us don’t. A lot of people have friends with whom both parties initiate contact to say hello, have conversations, and support one another. But some of us don’t. For some of us, there are no real friends who initiate contact, and when we try to initiate an online conversation for example, people often don’t even bother to respond.
   Loneliness is tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel hopeless and almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. Individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much and so often, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from further disappointments, letdowns, rejections, and crushed hopes. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others. And if you don’t find someone to connect with anytime soon, you’ll still have you!
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/loneliness
   

Atmospheric Nature And Walking Tour Videos On You Tube To Help Ease Your Isolation!

3-30-20
   Hey there everybody!
   Now, I realize social distancing and staying at home so much is probably getting on your nerves. It’s spring and here we are staying home.
   Well, be sure to open those blinds and curtains! Let some sunshine in for goodness sake! Also, if you are allowed (like you don’t have COVID 19 and are not under a strict indoor quarantine), getting outside to breath in some fresh air can do wonders. Perhaps take a walk around your neighborhood or bicycle (but practice social distancing as you do).
   Another idea is check out You Tube. Yes, You Tube. There are travel videos as well atmospheric nature videos that you can play on your TV. Experience Mount Rainier in Washington, Death Valley in California, the Grand Canyon in Arizona, Bryce Canyon in Utah, and many others while taking it easy at home. There are walking tour videos of places like The Colosseum in Rome, The Great Pyramids of Giza, the ruins of Ancient Pompeii, and countless more. Some are short while others are quite long. Many are in 4K or HD quality. There are You Tube channels (like the 4K Relaxation Channel and Nature Relaxation Films) that are committed to these types of videos. Many are free. Some will have the occasional ad or watermark. A number of them offer a paid subscription to remove those, but frankly, I do the free versions.
   Be creative and think outside the box.
   And remember, however long this outbreak goes on, we will get through it!

Educate Yourself But Also Relax And Keep Your Chin Up! We Will Get Through This!

3-27-20
   Hey there everybody!
   I know times are stressful with COVID 19 and people being home so much with social distancing and all.
   Strange times indeed. Kind of feels like an episode from the Twilight Zone.
   Remember to keep up to date with what is going on with COVID 19 using multiple, reputable, varied sources but don’t get obsessed with worry either. Won’t do any good. Educate yourself on what you need to do and try to relax.  
   Now, for some with families, significant others, and roommates, there will be too much togetherness. People getting on each other’s nerves! For we all need some me time now and then.
   For others like me, being alone and feeling lonely could get worse.
   Whatever your situation, be strong, hang in there, and don’t give up! We will get through this.
   Try to relax and do some things you enjoy at home. Read a good book, watch some movies and TV shows, play games (board or video), do a puzzle. Get creative. Write in a journal or create a story. Draw or paint. Get online and expand your mind. Many museums have parts of their collections available for viewing online. Research something out of pure curiosity, like learning about Amelia Earhart or checking out NASA images from its space probes and rovers. Use technology to keep in touch and socialize from a distance. Texting, phone calls, video chats, social media messaging, and so on are all great options for keeping in touch while staying physically isolated from each other.
   Hang in there! Keep your chin up!
   We will get through this!
.

COVID 19 Is Scary, But Hang In There! We Will Get Through This!

   Hey there everybody!
   I know times are stressful with COVID 19 and people being home so much with social distancing and all.
   Strange times indeed.
   For some with families, significant others, and roommates, there will be too much togetherness. People getting on each other’s nerves! For we all need some me time now and then.
   For others like me, being alone and feeling lonely could get worse.
   Whatever your situation, be strong, hang in there, and don’t give up! We will get through this.
   Try to relax and do some things you enjoy at home. Read a good book, watch some movies and TV shows, play games (board or video), do a puzzle. Get creative. Write in a journal or create a story. Draw or paint. Get online and expand your mind. Many museums have parts of their collections available for viewing online. Research something out of pure curiosity, like learning about Amelia Earhart or checking out NASA images from its space probes and rovers.
   Hang in there! Keep your chin up!
   We will get through this!
.

Loneliness Is A Common Problem We Must Address!

Loneliness…
   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it.
   Anyone is susceptible. Whether in a relationship with lots of people around or physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, and sexualities.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it stop you. Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to be sure to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love yourself and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in yourself! Doing so will help you enjoy life more and also increase the possibility of you connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because in your imagination, you can experience whatever you want.
   Don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!