Valentine’s Day Can Be A Rough Day For Many People

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   Well, it’s Valentine’s Day. A day for celebrating romance, love, companionship, and that special someone.
   But what about those of us who have no one, who never found romance, or who had it once but it’s gone now? This day can be frustrating and brutally difficult because it reminds many of us of what we either have never been able to find or had once but lost. For those of us who are alone, seeing and hearing all the trappings this day entails can be like having salt rubbed into a festering wound causing terrible pain. We can’t help but wonder about why others have romance in their lives while we don’t, and such thoughts can be particularly difficult on this holiday.
   So for those of us for whom Valentine’s Day is painful, hang in there and do your best not to let it bring you down. Keep your chin up. Do something you enjoy. Like watching a good movie, reading an interesting book, playing a video game, taking a walk, something that brings you joy.
   Will romantic love be in your future? I don’t know. For some, finding real romance will happen, yet for others, it won’t.
   Whatever the future holds, hang in there and believe in yourself. If you never find a significant other, remember that you always have yourself. Can always rely on yourself. You can be your own best friend.
   You will always have you.

Loneliness Is More Common Than Many Realize Or Want To Admit

   It can be really sobering when you look around and realize how few, if any, genuine friends you have. Some people have numerous good friends, but others of us don’t. A lot of people have friends with whom both parties initiate contact to say hello, have conversations, and support one another. But some of us don’t. For some of us, there are no real friends who initiate contact, and when we try to initiate an online conversation for example, people often don’t even bother to respond.
   Loneliness is tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel hopeless and almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. Individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much and so often, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from further disappointments, letdowns, rejections, and crushed hopes. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others. And if you don’t find someone to connect with anytime soon, you’ll still have you!
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/loneliness
   

Loneliness Is A Major Problem That Needs To Be Addressed

   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. Individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t appear to have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!
   

Loneliness Is An All Too Common Problem That Needs To Be Recognized

   Loneliness…
   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. Individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t appear to have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!
   

Loneliness Is A Common Problem We Must Address!

Loneliness…
   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it.
   Anyone is susceptible. Whether in a relationship with lots of people around or physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, and sexualities.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it stop you. Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to be sure to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love yourself and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in yourself! Doing so will help you enjoy life more and also increase the possibility of you connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because in your imagination, you can experience whatever you want.
   Don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!
  

Seems Like Finding Real Friendship Is Frustratingly Difficult At Meetup Events

Is it just me, or do other people find it difficult to establish real friendships at Meetup group events?
   You attend an event. Perhaps a hike, dinner, whatever that a Meetup group puts on. You’re friendly and upbeat. Have a few good conversations with people.
   Seems to go pretty well.
   But when you try to start a real friendship outside the event by sending them a follow up message afterwards, it becomes clear nothing is going to happen. They don’t respond or say something like “nice to meet you too, maybe we’ll run into each other again at another event sometime.”
   Hmmm…
   For me, I am lacking in terms of friends, but I suspect most people attending Meetup events already have close friends, dating lives, and possibly significant others too. As such, they aren’t really looking for a new friend, or don’t need one. For them, it may be more that they don’t want to do things like that alone. Perhaps the people in their lives weren’t interested or available to do that activity.
   Whereas someone like me does things alone all the time. I’m attending a Meetup event trying to find a real friend, but most already have that.
   Coming at it from different perspectives.
   At least, that’s a theory of what could be a factor.