Social Issues


Loneliness is a serious problem these days. Studies are showing that increasing numbers of people are feeling isolated and alone.
Yet it seems that the subject is taboo for much of society. Like they don’t want to talk about it.
It’s easy to blame the lonely person as if it must be all their fault. It’s common for people to think there must be something wrong with that lonely person, and then they frequently stay away. Don’t want to get involved.
And that makes the lonely individual feel even more isolated and alone.
Loneliness happens for a whole myriad of reasons. Physical isolation, feeling different from those around you, others treating you harshly or unfairly, sexuality, gender identity, bad experiences with people, depression, anxiety, past trauma, the list goes on and on.
Often, the reasons for a person’s loneliness is complex with multiple factors involved.
It’s time to quit treating loneliness as a taboo subject. We as human beings and as a society need to address it.
Individuals dealing with loneliness (and I’m one) should try to look at yourselves to see what you can do to try to make things better. Have the courage to look at yourself. See if there are things you can improve upon because there are often multiple causes to loneliness, and sometimes our own actions can be inadvertently contributing to the problem. Believe in yourself. That you are good and deserve happiness. To try to enjoy your own company. To do things you enjoy and try to find contentment on your own.
But also to try to talk to people. To interact with others. Try to be friendly and positive when you can in dealing with people you meet. I know it can be difficult. After getting hurt over and over, it’s easy to lose faith in humanity. To expect to be hurt and let down yet again. We have to be careful with those feelings because it can also lead to isolating ourselves even more. This can make the situation worse.
Have the courage to try to meet people. When people aren’t interested in being friends (and it will happen), don’t let it get you down.
Believe in yourself, shrug it off and keep on trucking!
Don’t let the failures consume you.
Don’t give up.
Those of us who are lonely need to realize that we’ll be ok on our own but that we should still try to meet people.
We must remember that despite the failures and setbacks, finding friendship is still possible and that we deserve it!
And don’t be afraid of talking to a professional if you need.
Now, to people who are not dealing with long term loneliness, open your minds and hearts. Don’t treat a lonely individual as some infectious person who should be avoided. Recognize that your actions (or lack thereof) could be contributing to the problem.
Consider talking to the lonely individual. Engage in friendly conversation. Be kind and considerate. Don’t automatically reject someone because they may be socially awkward, hurting, or quiet.
Talk to them. Show interest in them. Let them know you care. Initiate contact with them to say hello. You’d be surprised how supportive it would be to a lonely person if you’d send them a message of hello. Show them you are interested.
You may find a great and loyal friend.
So we all need to be open to talking about the problem of loneliness in our society. To learn and open our minds.
For together, we can make things better for everyone.

The United States And Guns

   The United States of America has a serious gun problem. One way or another, most people know this, although some are in denial and don’t want to believe it or admit it. But it’s true.
   Too many people are dying every single day tragically and needlessly because of gun violence.
   When the Constitution was created in the 18th century, it was a different time. There were no smartphones, communication was slow, the standing army was tiny, and many people lived in small rural communities or farms that were isolated and far away from help if something occurred. If you lived on a small farm in the 1700s, you couldn’t jump in the car and go to the grocery store. Small farmers frequently had to be much more self-reliant growing a significant amount of their own food and sometimes hunting for meat. Also if a criminal came to the farm, they couldn’t call 911. In many ways, they were on their own because it could take hours or longer to alert the authorities and get help. Something else to consider is that the muskets of the 18th century were much slower to reload and much less accurate than weapons today. Someone with significant practice could get off maybe three shots in a minute, give or take. In real world circumstances, it was likely often less than three a minute. And finally, the United States of the 18th century and early 19th centuries relied heavily on militias for defense because the standing army was tiny.
   In other words, the Second Amendment was written in another time when the circumstances were vastly different than today.
  It’s now the 21st century, and the United States has a large standing military, the National Guard, extensive police and law enforcement agencies, rapid communication, vehicles, planes, trains, grocery stores, and much deadlier guns. It’s definitely a different time.
   Let’s start by comparing assault rifles to muskets. A muzzleloading musket from the 18th century would take around 20 seconds to reload and fire if you were experienced, whereas a semi-automatic assault rifle can fire essentially as fast as your finger can squeeze on top of having high capacity clips. Realistically, someone could fire 60 rounds or more in a minute with a much higher degree of accuracy than the old muzzleloading muskets. The people who wrote the Second Amendment likely had no idea that assault rifles would ever exist or be in the hands of civilians.
   Now, let’s compare gun violence in the United States to that of other countries which have stricter gun control laws. First, death by firearms in 2017 per 100,000 people. According to the statistical site, Our World In Data, the United States rate was 4.63. The United Kingdom’s rate was 0.06, whereas Australia’s was 0.18. Germany’s was 0.1, and Japan’s was 0.03. Think about the vast difference between these countries and the United States.
   Now let’s look at the rate of death by interpersonal violence using any method in 2017 per 100,000 people. In the United States, the rate was 6.1. The UK’s was 0.5, and Australia’s was 1.4. Germany’s rate was 0.8 and Japan’s was 0.6. As you can see, the rates are multiple times lower than that of the United States.
   Take a look at these numbers. Look at the vast difference between United States and these other countries. The UK, Germany, Japan, and Australia have crime like the United States does. Their crime rates overall may be a little less than the United States in some cases, but not that much less.
   So let’s be honest about what’s going on. The major factor that explains the significant difference in murder rates is guns. The other countries listed here have much stricter gun control laws than the United States does. That’s the big difference. And if you compare these rates between the United States and other countries such as Belgium, France, and others, you will find similar results.
   It’s clear as day that the United States has a major gun problem and must enact stricter gun control laws. Gun violence in this country is just plain way out of control, and too many innocent people including children are dying every single day because of it.
   I’m not saying make all guns illegal. But there are practical, common sense gun control laws that would make a difference, especially in the long term. Ideas include banning assault style rifles from private ownership. No civilian needs an assault rifle. Assault rifles were created to kill human beings in times of war. That’s what they were designed for. Not for hunting animals or sport shooting. Restricting the size of clips is another practical idea that could save lives. Again, no one needs clips that hold 30 rounds of ammunition or more. Mandatory training and licensing would be a great idea. In order to drive a vehicle, you have to take a test and get a license, so why not do something similar for guns. Also, more extensive background checks would save a lot of lives as would tighter laws on proper storage of guns and ammunition when not in use. Too many kids die in tragic accidents when they grab their parents’ loaded gun that was sitting below the bed.
   By instituting laws like this nationwide, many lives would be saved, and law-abiding citizens who want to have a gun for hunting or similar would still be able to do so. As a matter of fact, many gun owners support gun control laws like this.
   So it’s definitely time to act. People need to stop automatically opposing gun control legislation ideas. Too many Americans are needlessly dying every single day. It’s time to enact better gun control laws.
   Future innocent lives are literally at stake.

Online Scammers Hurt People And Society As A Whole

   Damn scammers!
   Yes, you heard me right. Damn those scammers.
   These days, it seems like dating sites, many Facebook groups, and other online social sites are riddled with fake profiles run by scamming operations. It’s infuriating and very hurtful. It also costs society a lot of money.
   The US Federal Trade Commission says it logged reports of 21,000 romance scams costing an estimated 143 million dollars in 2018. Think about that. $143 million in one year, and that’s just romance scams. There are many other types of scams going on these days. Plus, consider how many more victims were too embarrassed to admit that they had been duped by a scammer.
   In addition to monetary losses, scammers take a heavy toll on people emotionally and psychologically. It interferes with our ability to find new friends or real romance by affecting our trust in online social sites and people in general. How many individuals have given up on even trying to improve their social situation because they seem to keep running into scammers? As a terribly lonely person myself, I can attest to how infuriating and hurtful it is to keep running into scammers when I’m just trying to find a friend.
   So, be careful when online. Don’t reveal important information to individuals online you don’t truly know with 100% certainty whether they are real or not. And even if they are real, hackers can steal data. While many scammers are pretty easy to identify, some are very clever. Plus, when you are lonely, it’s easy to ignore the red flags that you are dealing with a scammer because you want to believe it’s real.
   Dating sites, social sites, and other online groups can be quite helpful. But be careful and protect yourself from scammers too.