Loneliness Is Much More Common Than Many People Realize Or Want To Admit

  Loneliness is tough and much more common the most people realize. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel hopeless, overwhelming, and has the potential to increase the risk of mental and physical health problems.
   Anyone is susceptible, from individuals with lots of people around them to others who are physically isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary isn’t it.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for many years. I understand the pain and challenges. Seeing other people have significant others and numerous close friends while I’m on my own.
   As to why loneliness occurs, that is complicated and varies from person to person with numerous factors potentially coming into play. Physical isolation, lack of common interests, being different from people in one’s environment, depression, social anxiety, shyness, and low interpersonal communication skills are a few examples.
   Age can play a role as well. Studies have shown that for most individuals over 30, the number of friends they have decreases. This is probably connected to people getting into long-term relationships, starting families, dealing with careers, and so on. As a result, some of the friendships they had from before drift away. As to the established friendships that continue, there may be changes such as not seeing each other quite as often because for many individuals, their significant others and families have become their main source of social interaction. The result is that most people over 30 aren’t particularly looking for new friends. From their perspective, they’re too busy or don’t need them. So for individuals who are lonely and searching for new friends, finding them becomes even more difficult.
   Loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, but we should work hard at not letting it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much and so often, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from further disappointments, letdowns, rejections, and crushed hopes. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others. And if you don’t find someone to connect with anytime soon, you’ll still have you!
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself and be your own best friend!

Too Many People Are Hurting Due To A Lack Of Acceptance From Much Of Society.

   Hey there folks. I’d like to talk about something that’s very important which many people don’t realize. The fact is that there are a great number of LGBTQ people who are hurting, isolated, and alone because too many members of the Straight and Gay / Lesbian Communities don’t fully accept us. And this needs to change. It’s the 21st century for crying out loud.
   Who am I talking about you may wonder. It’s actually a lot more people than you may think. Bisexual+, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Nonbinary, Transgender, Asexual, and others (NTBA+ for short) often feel like we’re not fully accepted by most of society so that far too often, we end up very isolated and alone.
   Many people fear, and even ostracize, individuals whom they see as too different. Often, they assume the worst. That somehow we must be confused and untrustworthy. Or that we’re just plain too weird. The result is that they don’t fully accept us.
   The consequences are that too many NTBA+ people end up feeling like we don’t belong anywhere and that people don’t want us. It makes finding true friends incredibly difficult and often dating becomes virtually impossible, despite the fact that we can be just as faithful and monogamous as anyone else and that we want love too. Unfortunately, too many of us are having to face the brutal reality that we are probably going to be alone for the rest of our lives.
   Things need to change.
   The Straight and Gay / Lesbian Communities as a whole need to open their minds and their hearts. NTBA+ people deserve acceptance and a chance. Don’t automatically reject us because of who we are. Try to open your minds and get to know us. We also enjoy the same interests and activities that you do, whether it’s movies, TV shows, and art or good food, travel, and the outdoors. Plus, diversity should be celebrated, not feared.
   We are people too.
   We have hopes and dreams.
   We want to have happy productive lives like everyone else.
   All we are asking for is a chance.
   If everyone strove to be kind, considerate, tolerant, open-minded, and accepting, imagine how wonderful and magical the world could be for everyone.

Valentine’s Day Can Be A Rough Day For Many People

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   Well, it’s Valentine’s Day. A day for celebrating romance, love, companionship, and that special someone.
   But what about those of us who have no one, who never found romance, or who had it once but it’s gone now? This day can be frustrating and brutally difficult because it reminds many of us of what we either have never been able to find or had once but lost. For those of us who are alone, seeing and hearing all the trappings this day entails can be like having salt rubbed into a festering wound causing terrible pain. We can’t help but wonder about why others have romance in their lives while we don’t, and such thoughts can be particularly difficult on this holiday.
   So for those of us for whom Valentine’s Day is painful, hang in there and do your best not to let it bring you down. Keep your chin up. Do something you enjoy. Like watching a good movie, reading an interesting book, playing a video game, taking a walk, something that brings you joy.
   Will romantic love be in your future? I don’t know. For some, finding real romance will happen, yet for others, it won’t.
   Whatever the future holds, hang in there and believe in yourself. If you never find a significant other, remember that you always have yourself. Can always rely on yourself. You can be your own best friend.
   You will always have you.

Loneliness Is More Common Than Many Realize Or Want To Admit

   It can be really sobering when you look around and realize how few, if any, genuine friends you have. Some people have numerous good friends, but others of us don’t. A lot of people have friends with whom both parties initiate contact to say hello, have conversations, and support one another. But some of us don’t. For too many people these days, there are few to no close friends who initiate contact, and when we try to initiate an online conversation for example, people often don’t even bother to respond.
   Loneliness is tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel hopeless and almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. It can be individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much and so often, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from further disappointments, letdowns, rejections, and crushed hopes. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others. And if you don’t find someone to connect with anytime soon, you’ll still have you!
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/loneliness
   

Loneliness Is A Major Problem That Needs To Be Addressed

   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. Individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t appear to have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!
   

During Challenging Times, Believe In Yourself And Don’t Give Up!

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   When times are tough, whatever the cause, you need to hang in there, believe in yourself, and stay strong.
   It’s not always easy. I get that. Really, I do because I’m dealing with challenging things right now as I write this.
   I’ve had terrible slander spread about me and experienced repeatedly how people, whom I had thought I could count on, abandoned me when I needed support. It’s like everything is hitting the fan and you are left to face it alone.
   It can be heartbreaking and devastating, leaving you feeling so isolated and lonely at a time when you could really use people in your corner. When difficult situations occur, a person may discover that many people whom they thought were friends, really weren’t, making one feel even more alone.
   Seeing how when the going gets tough, so many get the hell out of Dodge, it’s easy to become eaten up with feelings of bitterness, anger, hurt, and pain. While having these emotions is quite normal, don’t let them consume you. That’s not healthy either. Learn to manage such feelings. Don’t let them run your life. Even though it may be hard to believe, there are decent, good individuals in the world. Don’t give up on all humanity. Instead, try to be wiser in dealing with it.
   Be strong. Have courage. Believe in your ability to handle whatever you need to deal with! Don’t give up on the human race , but also remember that you can rely on yourself and be your own best friend.
   You will get through this!

Loneliness Is An All Too Common Problem That Needs To Be Recognized

   Loneliness…
   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it. Seeing other people have numerous close friends while I can’t seem to find even one.
   Anyone is susceptible. Individuals with lots of people around them or others who are physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, sexualities, races… No one is immune.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be terribly challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what. I know, it can be brutal at times, but never give up on you.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t automatically rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it bring you down. I know it can be frustrating and terribly painful, especially when you don’t appear to have any close friends and attempts to find one seem to keep failing. Still, metaphorically speaking: Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in you! Doing so will help make life more enjoyable and also increase the possibility of perhaps connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because there, you can experience, explore, and do whatever you want.
   And don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!
   

Loneliness Is A Common Problem We Must Address!

Loneliness…
   Loneliness, it’s tough. It can be painful, exhausting, heartbreaking, and potentially devastating, especially when we let it consume us. At times, it can feel almost overwhelming.
   Loneliness also has the potential to increase the risks of mental and physical health problems.
   I know all about loneliness because I’ve been living with it for decades. I understand the pain and challenges that come with it.
   Anyone is susceptible. Whether in a relationship with lots of people around or physically alone and isolated.  All ages, genders, and sexualities.
   Kinda scary I know.
   Thing is, while loneliness can be challenging to deal with, we shouldn’t let it consume us. We must learn to control it, not let it control us.
   Believe in yourself, even at the most difficult moments. Remember that you can rely on yourself no matter what.
   Stay open to the possibility of connecting with someone because after being hurt so much, it can be easy to automatically shut people out to try to protect ourselves from more disappointments, letdowns, and rejections. The problem with shutting people out is that it can also isolate us even more and prevent us from establishing contact and potential relationships with others. 
   So be open to meeting other people. Don’t rule out letting them in. If they hurt you, don’t let it stop you. Get back up, brush yourself off, and keep moving forward.
   Another thing is to be sure to try to find happiness in yourself. There is truth to the idea of love yourself and have faith in yourself.
   Believe in yourself! Doing so will help you enjoy life more and also increase the possibility of you connecting with others.
   Do things you enjoy, even if you are doing them on your own. Use your imagination because in your imagination, you can experience whatever you want.
   Don’t be afraid to talk to a counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. There is absolutely no shame in doing so, and it may help you cope with your circumstances a whole lot better.
   And please, never give up!
   Remember that you can always rely on yourself!
  

For All The Lonely People This Valentine’s Day, Hang In There!

Valentine’s Day is here once again.

The day for romance, love, couples, chocolate candy, and heart shaped balloons…

But for many of us who are alone, it can be a tough day, reminding us of how lonely we are. That we have no Valentine. No special someone. That there will be no romantic dinner over candlelight gazing into a lover’s eyes. And if chocolates become involved, it’s likely because we bought it for ourselves, trying to gain a bit of solace as we battle through this day.

Let’s be honest, for many, this day sucks!

If you are like me, hang in there!

Believe in yourself!

Try to do something that you enjoy. Something for yourself. Watch a funny movie, read a good book, battle monsters in a videogame! Perhaps treat yourself to pizza as you’re sprawled out on the sofa.

Relax and try to have some fun.

And remember, whatever happens, you can always rely on yourself!

Seems Like Finding Real Friendship Is Frustratingly Difficult At Meetup Events

Is it just me, or do other people find it difficult to establish real friendships at Meetup group events?
   You attend an event. Perhaps a hike, dinner, whatever that a Meetup group puts on. You’re friendly and upbeat. Have a few good conversations with people.
   Seems to go pretty well.
   But when you try to start a real friendship outside the event by sending them a follow up message afterwards, it becomes clear nothing is going to happen. They don’t respond or say something like “nice to meet you too, maybe we’ll run into each other again at another event sometime.”
   Hmmm…
   For me, I am lacking in terms of friends, but I suspect most people attending Meetup events already have close friends, dating lives, and possibly significant others too. As such, they aren’t really looking for a new friend, or don’t need one. For them, it may be more that they don’t want to do things like that alone. Perhaps the people in their lives weren’t interested or available to do that activity.
   Whereas someone like me does things alone all the time. I’m attending a Meetup event trying to find a real friend, but most already have that.
   Coming at it from different perspectives.
   At least, that’s a theory of what could be a factor.